Learning how to be happy can take someone a lifetime, or it can be a sudden revelation. Either way the steps to understanding are the same. It depends on how stubbornly you hold on to the belief that happiness is something external.
The first step is understanding that things don’t make you happy. The next step is learning that other people do not make you happy. Then you need to understand that only YOU can make you happy. Once that truth is embedded in your soul, you will understand that happiness is not a destination. Being happy is a choice and it is completely up to you, not anyone or anything else. Once you truly understand this you will stop blaming other people, circumstances or things for your lack of happiness. You will understand that the only way to be truly happy is to choose to be. Living in a constant state of gratitude creates a sense of joy that no one and no thing can disturb.
I CHOOSE to be happy because it is good for my health and well being. A lot of people have asked me “How?”. This is the simple, but for some difficult, truth.